Blog Posts, Insights, and Poetry
I write alot and Im always working on something. Sometimes Ill post journal articles, poems, book excerpts, or worldwide women's updates here to showcase and share.
I am Black
I am Latino
I am Female
I am Poor
I am Gay
I am White
I am Indigenous
I am a Stay At Home Mom
I am Sexy and Sex Positive
I am a Hippie
I Had a Home Birth
I am an Environmentalist
I am Homeschooling
I am Not a Christian/Jew/Catholic/ or Muslim
The Environment is My Indigenous Religion
I Do Not Work for Wages
I am a Dancer
I am Anti Government/Establishment/Rich
I believe Wasting, especially Food, especially Animals, is a Sin
I am a Cook
I am a Stripper
I am A Drug User
I am a Farmer
I have been Colonized and Abused
I have Colonized and Abused Others
I am Not a Republican, Democrat, Capitalist, Socialist, or Communist
I believe in Killing people who Murder, Rape, and Poison Community Resources
I Don't Believe in Jails or Police
I have Aborted an Unwanted Pregnancy Myself
I Dont Believe in Most Vaccines
I Heal My Family With Herbs and Food, Not Doctors
I Believe the World would be a Better World if Women had Equal or Slightly More Power than Men
I have Been Happily Married for 17 Years
I Don't Spank or Punish My Child
I am a Psychologist/Anthropologist/Sociologist
I am the Outsider. I Align with the Bottom, Not the Top
I Know that Indigenous Women had Equal Power and I know what that Looks Like
I am an Earth Mother Married to an Earth Father, raising an Earth Child
If this bothers you it dosen't mean we cant be friends, but it does mean you will never quite understand me.
Why Cant My Boy Love Beauty?
I have read at least 4 articles about how everyone is fed up with girls clothing being all hearts, sweet animals, and flowers but NOT ONE that questions why boys clothes are full of guns, fighters, and camouflage.
Is this a common experience of boy mothers? I would spend hours shopping for Mikey to find him clothes that spoke a message of peace, love, appreciation. I would comb through hundreds of shirts with superheroes (unpopular opinion here but superheroes are fighters. They solve their problems by fighting them) and warriors. I found weapons on everything. Other popular themes that were less violent but still very aggressive were sports, and carnivores (more shirts with Trex than Triceratops, more with eagles than Robin's, more grasshoppers NEVER butterflies). Forget light colors. No soft oranges, corals, or pinks. Tons of dark blues, blacks, browns, reds.
I'm not against my son wearing a shirt with a professional athlete or musician but why were they ONLY male?? Boys cant wear a shirt with Simone Biles? With Dolly Parton? Why are boys denied beauty at such a young age? My son LOVES butterflies!! But to wear one on his shirt would be an insult.........a shame. And quite frankly, impossible because they are not made.
We need some articles asking why boys cant wear hearts and butterflies just as much as we need articles asking why girls cant wear dinosaurs, planets and sports. We need articles asking why girls wearing "male themed clothes" is actually quite common, accepted, and possible while males cant even find any feminine themed clothing available to them.
We need to ask ourselves why it's ok for girls to promote "masculine themes" but we dont want boys in "feminine themes".
Is it so bad to be feminine? Is it the worst thing we can be? Hearts and butterflies? We would rather be weapons and jobs??
Which one is more important? More "real world" important? Which one is more respected? Which one is "childish?"
Why do we let weapons and jobs be more respected than hearts and butterflies? Which creates a better world do you think?
Personally, I will not kill the feminine in my son. I want his feminine chakras to be just as healthy and loved as his masculine ones. I want him to accept his feminine love and appreciation for the beautiful things of this world. I want him to be beautiful because he is. I cry a little each time I hear him say to a woman "that dress is beautiful" when I paint something and he says "that's so beautiful mom" when he sees a Nature picture and says "look how beautiful".......I'm not used to males remarking on how beautiful something is. It literally makes me cry.
You know, having a boy child was never what I
expected. I expected a girl. And I often wonder if I would have had the same chance to face soooooo many of my own knee jerk reactions to what "is and is not" gender appropriate. If I would have had the chance to root them out and question myself....... I dont think I ever realized how much of my own feminine I killed. I think it took a boy to love, a boy to promise I would not stifle, a boy who's love for beauty surprised me......
Currently Im working on healing my own feminine chakras. I'm encouraging them to come out of hiding.
Im working on my masculine chakras, and encouraging them to be brave enough to let the feminine lead. To be healed. To express the feminine through the masculine so that I can say, "I love butterflies and I think they are more important than jobs and status. Even if the world is set up where I must have a job, I still think butterflies are more important and I believe that a world where beauty is more important, and jobs are less important (maybe a 3 or 4 day work week) is possible!"
Isnt it amazing what my child has taught me
Photo is me and Mikey. My shirt is black with Bob Marley. His shirt has a female traditional Mexican dancer in a beautiful dress with bright and festive colors