Goddess Games The time container for this game is one year. Play this along with your normal routines. Dedicate yourself to your goal, and have grace with yourself when you slip. Above all else, keep going until you've mastered the game.
To find a Partner play this game. Find what activities bring you joy and later, find your partner there. There are two phases to this game.
Phase One: Begin by asking yourself what activities might bring you joy. Without alcohol or drugs, and with a $50 cap, develop a list of activities that bring joy to your life and make you feel good. We want childlike wonder and joy so make sure to follow the rules.
Next, go into the community and engage in these activities. Once a week is a good goal but once every other week is just as good. Experiment. Try one first and if it dosent bring the wonderment, try another. Its cool to have a few and rotate them. Experiment and evaluate. Devote yourself to the good ones and schedule the time. While engaging in these communities, DO NOT look for a partner (that comes later) simply practice engaging in activities in communities and feeling joy.
Some example activities: sports, volunteering, cooking class, reading at the library, community theater, art class, dance class, community garden, chess/game clubs, live music, roller skating, pet shelter, bird watching/hiking group
Do this 6-8 months ish. This is personal development of our relationship with ourselves. To be in love, to feel good in our own skin, our own company. We are training ourselves and sending the signs we can love ourselves good so the Universe will only send us someone who can love us as good or better than we do ourselves. This is a FEELING we must practice engaging in. Give it all the time it needs to master. It should not be fast.
Phase Two: After your 6-8 month phase one, or when you have mastered creating your own joy and what feeling joy feels like, start cultivating some rules for dating so that you can efficiently eliminate anyone who would not be able to fulfill the roles you need from a partner in order to live life in your joyful feeling.
Phase One is about growth, adding, and becoming familiar with love (our personal version of love) in our own bodies. Phase Two is about creating the structures that will support that love so we can relax and open to receiving the RIGHT partner.
Begin by cultivating a list of why you want a partnership. Do you want someone to talk with? Do you want someone to take care of you when you are sick? Do you want someone to have your children? Do you want someone to relieve your financial burden?
This is where you need to let go of being nice and get real. You are creating your order here and you will only get what you allow.
Personally, I wanted a man who wanted a family and who wanted me to be a stay at home mom. I wanted a husband, not a boyfriend.
So my dating rules were:
*No dating men who dont pay for dinner (if he cant pay for dinner he is not able to make me a stay at home mom. if he doesnt want to pay for dinner, he doesnt want to support a family)
*No calling a man ever (if he is interested in me being his wife, he will do the work)
*No dating a man who is bothered around children (if he wants a family he will enjoy the company of children and treat them with equality)
Now, I am happily married 17 years so please, please, get real with what you want and make rules that eliminate the noise.
You may have rules like:
*No dating someone unattractive (if you want an attractive partner)
*No dating someone who is an alcoholic
*Only date someone who makes me laugh
*A month of dates before sex
*Only date someone who wants to be a stay at home mom
*Only date someone who makes as much money as I do
*Only date someone who never acts jealous or controlling
There are no wrong rules!! This phase is about setting your bars because there are TONS of people who will meet your bars and if you dont set them, you will constantly be entertaining people who will never be the partner you need and you will not be able to relax and receive the one you are looking for.
Dont be squeamish. Set your bars high and firm. Then start being open to attracting or noticing your partner. Dont rush things! Remember the container for this game is a year and two is just fine too. Enjoy your life in the mean time. Everyone isnt a partner candidate. Some might be a fling, some might be a friend.
Do they pass your bars? Potential Partner candidate
Do they fail your bars? Potential fling or friend
DO NOT CONFUSE a FLING for a PARTNER!!!! Be Diligent but have fun. Do all of this because you love yourself and build a family or a future with that love as the nucleus. Build what you want, not what you dont want.
Continue this whole time in your community activities. These will be the places your partner will probably reveal themselves around the end of year one. However, be open to surprises and enjoy the process.
Master this game and you will find your partner in the next two years.